The long awaited day had finally arrived. It was months in the planning. Everything needed to be just right. I spent hours searching online, for the perfect decorations, and yummy food for a couple’s bridal shower, well not a just a couples shower, but two couples showers.
I was standing in my kitchen talking to a sweet friend, who had come to share a devotional for the young couples. She was commenting on how beautiful everything was, and how wonderful the food turned out. She said,” You are amazing! I can’t believe you did all of this!” That is when it hit me, how do you stop a mom? But we’ll come back to that in a minute.
What made my friend think I was so amazing? Well, six weeks earlier I was riding bicycles with my boys. My oldest son was training for the MS150, a 150-mile ride from Houston, Texas to Austin, Texas to raise money for Multiple Sclerosis. So he, my youngest son, and I set out to go for a ride. As soon as we got to the trail my oldest son took off. The big ride was going to happen soon, and he needed to train.
So my youngest son and I ambled from one park to another enjoying our ride and time together. I thought I was so clever. I attached my phone to the front of my bike with Velcro, so that I could track my fitness, and control my music.
It was a beautiful day, and we were on a trail in the middle of the woods, that runs along a creekside. When all of a sudden around the 15-mile mark, my phone started to slip out of the Velcro, and my headphones were yanked out of my ears. I was afraid that they would get caught in the tire, and make me wreck. So without thinking, I reached for my phone with my right hand, and I squeezed the front break with my left hand, and came to a screeching halt! I was catapulted straight over the top of the handlebars, and without thinking, I put my hands out to brace my fall and snapped both of my arms.
Without thinking, I reached for my phone with my right hand, and I squeezed the front break with my left hand, and came to a screeching halt! I was catapulted straight over the top of the handlebars, and without thinking, I put my hands out to brace my fall and snapped both of my arms!
My left arm was nearly a compound fracture, and both my Ulna and Radius were broken. Fortunately, I only broke the Radius in my right arm, but that meant that I had two broken arms, and needed surgery to repair them. I had three plates and twenty screws inserted into my forearms.
My surgeon said it could take three months to a year for me to heal. Three months to a year? What? What did he just say?
At my follow up appointment two weeks after surgery I asked him, “How soon I can drive?” and he just laughed at me. I am a busy wife and mom. I have a husband and three boys and I am a busy homeschool mom.
I don’t have time to slow down, or stop for that matter!
If you are a mom then you know the drill. Someone is always vying for our attention, needs something, or we just run from one activity with our kids to the next.
Which brings me back to that question. That question, that struck me so profound, that I couldn’t get it out of my head. As I was standing in the kitchen talking to my friend, and she was saying I can’t believe you did all of this, with two broken arms!
I simply replied, “ How do you stop a mom?”
How do you stop a mom?
From the time we give birth, until the day we die we are moms. If you are a single mother, a working mother, your children go to school, or they are grown and have families of their own. A mother is ALWAYS a mom, and we are on duty 24/7.
How does a woman stop caring for her family, when she has both of her arms broken? She does not. Or how does a mom stop showing love to her family, when she is going through chemo, she cant? Or what about when she is overwhelmed by the duties of caring for babies, and toddlers, and is in need of encouragement, or worse because she lives under a dark cloud of depression?
I don’t know where you are in your motherhood journey or what that may look like for you, but I do know is that Motherhood matters. Motherhood is the highest and most important calling that we have in our lives as women. The kind of mom we are, how we shape our children’s hearts, what we believe in and what we believe about ourselves, all of that matters!
I have spent a lot of time thinking about motherhood, and what it means to be a mom? And how do you stop a mom? I look at the friends in my life that are mothers, and I see both the joys and the struggles that they face and the influence that they have in their children’s lives.
I have spent many hours morning the loss of both my mom and my mother-in-law who have both gone on to be with the Lord in recent years. Both of these women made a significant impact on my life, and have shaped me to be the mom I am today. What was important to them and the example that they were and still are to me speaks volumes of the kind mom I want to be, and the legacy that I want to leave my children with.
What was important to them and the example that they were and still are to me speaks volumes of the kind mom I want to be, and the legacy that I want to leave my children with. Remember that you have a noble and worthy calling as Mom and that what you do matters today, and can have implications that last more than a lifetime.
Have you ever gone through a difficult season of motherhood? Leave a comment below with and tell me what did you do to get through that difficult season.
Musch love, Misty