Are you weary? Does your soul need to be refreshed?

As women and especially as wives and mothers, our hearts can become so weary from caring for the needs of others that we tend to overlook taking care of ourselves. Recently, I listened to a message from my friend Lisa Allen, Executive Director of Ministry Training at Proverbs 31 entitled, “Self-Care Isn’t Selfish.” This message really resonated with me. As women, wives, and mothers, why do we think it is selfish to tend to our own needs? For years I have poured my life out for others and neglected to care for myself. The Lord is showing me that life is a marathon and not a sprint. Runners don’t run marathons without first being properly nourished, rested, and hydrated.

Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us – Hebrews 12:1

As Christian women, we are called to run our race in life with endurance. To run with endurance, we also need to be properly nourished, rested and hydrated. Our nourishment comes from spending time in the presence of God, meditating on His word, and loving others.  Before any flight takes off, the flight attendant instructs passengers of what to do in an emergency.  Passengers are told to put on their own oxygen mask before assisting anyone else.

This past weekend was a breath of fresh air for my soul, it was a privilege to attend the Refresh Gathering hosted by my friend Debi Chapman. I am so excited to share the Refresh Gathering with you this week.  I love Debi’s heart for the Lord, and her multigenerational vision to encourage women. The Refresh Gathering was held at a beautiful venue in Grapevine, Texas called the Laurel. The day was referred to as a “spa day for your soul.”


It is a beautiful thing when women of all ages come to together to enjoy Christian fellowship with one another and to encourage one another in their Christian walk.

Debi Chapman’s great opening session centered around the story of Lazarus in John 11. The key scripture from her talk was John 11:40.

Jesus said to her, “Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?” John 11:40 ESV

If you believe (in the midst of your pain, suffering, and mistakes), then you would see the glory of God. The enemy wants us to question God when things go wrong in our life. We can’t go back and change the past, but we can choose to see Jesus in the midst of our circumstances.

We must believe that no matter what happens in life….. that Jesus sees us, He hears our prayers, and He loves us!


Colleen Stickl of Awakened Heart spoke on receiving refreshment and taught from the scripture in John 4 about the woman at the well and our need to be refreshed by living water. Colleen focused on three specific areas where we refreshment, our identity, our perspective, and our purpose. Each day our souls need to be refreshed by living water so that we can refresh others out of our overflow.

Jesus answered her, “If you knew the gift of God, and who it is that is saying to you, ‘Give me a drink,’ you would have asked him, and he would have given you living water.” – John 4:10 ESV

The woman at the well was full of regret and was isolated. As Christians, our identity is not shame or regret. We need to remember who we are, and whose we are!

Our identity is in Jesus, and we are called, chosen, and forgiven.

My favorite statement of Colleen’s was this….

The enemy wants me to look back at regret and look ahead and fear.- Colleen Stickl

Our identity, our perspective, and our purpose need to be in Jesus. 

Monica Zuniga of We Are Unveiled spoke on being refreshed through forgiveness. She taught from the story of Joeseph and reminded us that we have been set free so that we can forgive others. My two favorite quotes from her talk were….

The enemy will always divide

Man will subtract

God brings Unity

Our encounter with grace and mercy with the King of the universe should affect our encounters with others. – Monica Zuniga

Next, we heard from Emily Thomas of Mom Struggling Well. She encouraged us to obey God, and if God is telling you to do something, just do it. He will help you do whatever it is he calling you to do!

Kaye Haun of House on Oak Street encouraged us to allow the Lord to renew our souls. To create an environment that brings refreshment to ourselves and those who we have the opportunity to serve in our homes, we need to be sensitive to our season in life. She talked about slowing down and being present with the people in front of us and being present with the Lord. She encouraged us to spend time with the Lord listening to how he would have us care for ourselves and for others, and allow him to give us ideas of refreshment.

Cindy Haggerton spoke on wellness. Dr. Jim Bob and Cindy Haggerton are a husband and wife chiropractic team who have dedicated their lives to educating the public about health and wellness. I encourage you to find out more about them here at Family Wellness. Cindy shared her powerful healing of restoration in her marriage to Jim Bob. She taught about the brain, digestion, and chronic inflammation and it was fascinating. Her philosophy is “move well, be well, think well,” but this is my favorite quote from her session.

“Your husband needs to see you refreshed.”- Cindy Haggerton


Susan Ryan has lived an incredible life of international travel and is passionate about developing leaders. Through humor and wit, she encouraged us to embrace life in all its fullness, messiness, and beauty.

I love this quote from Susan!

“Talent is universal, but opportunity is not.”- Susan Ryan

Lexa Brecheen of Gateway Church was precious! She spoke on God’s sufficiency to supply all of our needs. She told us about the importance of one word of refreshment and how it can change the course of someone’s day. Refreshing other people is not about us. It is about God being glorified. Make it all about Jesus.

The day concluded with an insightful panel discussion and Q&A with the speakers, and Debi Chapman closed out by sharing Jeremiah 15:19.

Therefore thus says the LORD: “If you return, I will restore you, and you shall stand before me. If you utter what is precious, and not what is worthless, you shall be as my mouth. They shall turn to you, but you shall not turn to them.- Jeremiah 15:19 ESV

Her final charge was this: We are precious because we are made in the image of God, and that the enemy tries to convince us that it doesn’t matter what we do, but what we do matters!

What we do matters!

Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. -Proverbs 4:23

We are salt and light, and as we are refreshed by the Lord, we need to refresh others. There were other amazing vendors and sponsors, so be sure to check out Refresh Gathering for all of the details.

I want to close with one final thought from the book of Hebrews.

And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. – Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV

Let us encourage one another to love and good works. I would love to know how you inspire and refresh others in your sphere of influence!

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Posted by Misty Phillip

By His Grace: Seek Jesus, Study the Word, Grow in Grace Bible Study Author, Christian Lifestyle Blogger, & Speaker


  1. Misty, I love your overview and perspective! Thank you for coming all the way from Houston to join us for the day – it was a such a joy to be together. Also, thank you for recording our day in such a lovely way.


    1. Debi, Refresh Gathering was such a blessing to me. God worked in some unexpected ways in my heart! I don’t know that my words adequately did justice to the beautiful refreshment my soul received. Thank you for pursuing your dream and making the Refresh Gathering a reality! ❤️️ Misty


  2. Sounds like a wonderful time of refreshment!


    1. Deb, Thank you! There is something special that occurs when women gather together to share the truth of God’a word and encourage one another to walk in freedom and truth.


  3. Oh, Misty, such good stuff. Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m thinking my soul could sure use a spa day! 🙂 Love that John 11:40 verse. — And, oh that my encounters with God would affect my encounters with others–that He’d always be the foundation from which I relate. It makes such a difference in our relationships when we’re walking in step with Him, doesn’t it? Sounds like a great retreat and a great reminder that — Yes, what we do matters! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with #ChasingCommunity today, Misty. ((hug))


    1. Brenda, Yes! There were so many other things that were shared that day, and my words don’t even give justice to the retreat. But those things you mentioned really impacted me and I couldn’t wait to share with others!! It is a beautiful thing when Jesus girls come together in community! We have the greatest story ever told living within us, and it is honor and privilege that we get to share it with others. Thanks again for hosting #ChasingCommunity! Hugs! Have a great day 🙂


  4. Your retreat sounds wonderful! Refreshment is what we all need. Only Jesus can refresh and renew!


  5. Robin Kernodle 02/23/2017 at 3:09 pm

    I enjoyed meeting you, Misty, and really appreciated your recap of our “spa day for the soul.” And I am praying for Connor! Hugs from Dallas!


    1. Hi! Robin, It was so great to meet you too! Wasn’t Refresh Gathering amazing! My words don’t do it justice! Thanks for stopping by and I appreciate your prayers for my sweet boy! Hugs ❤️️ misty


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  7. Sigh, when I read this post I was sad. Why? Because I see a lack of refreshment in my own life. I long for fellowship with other women, and to hear Gods word taught and preached to me. The verse from Hebrews nailed it on the spot, as the day draws near I pray I get an opportunity to meet together maybe even with you so I too may be encouraged! With my little ones it’s so hard to go anywhere these days!

    Thank you for sharing at #CM&M on FB!!


    1. Sue, You can recieve refreshment right now where you are in the comfort of your own home. Jesus is the living water, and when we invite Him into our presence He refreshes us with that living water and with it we will never thirst! I know it is hard to find refreshment when your kids are small, but God sees you right where you are! Call out to Him and ask for refreshment! Your boys will grow in a blink of an eye, and you will miss those sweet little cherub faces. Love them well and enjoy them because it goes by much too fast! Press on sister and fight the good fight of faith! <3 Misty


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