Hey Friends, I hope you are embracing and enjoying the Advent and Christmas season this year as much as I am. I am so thankful that I got my home decorating done early this year. I have to let you in on a little secret. I began November with great expectations of all that I wanted to accomplish by the end of the year, and I was able to achieve many things on my to-do list, but many other things I had to let go.

The first of November I started making plans for Thanksgiving and Christmas, and began preparing my home for the upcoming season. Then out of the blue, I ended up with an upper respiratory infection that knocked me off of my feet. I kept thinking that I would get better, but days turned into weeks, and weeks have turned into over a month and a half.

Being sick has caused me to let go of many things that I wanted to accomplish and has required me to spend more time resting than usual. I apologize in advance because one of the things I wanted to do was share more with you here on the blog after I wrote my holiday e-book. For anyone who knows me well knows that having to rest could have been quite frustrating to me. Instead, I have chosen to focus on being filled with JOY this holiday season. I have let go of my expectations and let go of the things that I can not control. This has allowed the peace of Christ to rule in my heart.


And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. – Colossians 3:15

As I have taken time to rest, I have pondered a couple of things I want to talk to you about today, and those are SEASONS and GIFTINGS.

I want to be brutally honest with you here today. I have friends who have commented about my Christmas Home decorations and most of the comments have been very kind and encouraging, but for a few people, I am afraid it has caused them to fall into the comparison trap. Comparing what they are able to do in their home to what I have done in my home and this has prompted me to share a few thoughts with you that you might find helpful as you progress through the remainder of this year.

The goal of my holiday home is to create a warm hospitable home for family, friends, and guests and to inspire you to do the same as you invite others into your home this season. This will look different for you then it does for me and that is okay. God has given me a passion to decorate my home for Christmas, and the time, talent and resources to do it in a way that fits my personal style. It is my creative outlet and it is part of my gifting. My home looks nothing like it did a mere 5, 10 or 20 years ago.

I have friends who sing and are a part of a fantastic Christmas program at church we have every year as an outreach to our community, and that is their thing. My thing is to fancy up my home and invite others in to experience the love of Christ through my gift of hospitality. I have another friend who bakes amazing cakes and blesses others with her baking. She hasn’t always made these incredible creations, but this is something she has picked up since she is an empty nester. My point here is that we have all gifts from the Lord. He has blessed each of us with special giftings, and it is up to us to cultivate those gifts.


Which dovetails perfectly with my next point which is seasons. We all experience many seasons throughout our life. What is important to us in our twenties, probably looks, different in our thirties, forties, fifties and so on. The same goes for our resources and time. Some years we have more free time available to us then we do other years.

We do things very differently now that my boys are all older, then we did when they were younger. When the boys were little, we would wait until the coldest night in December, fill our cups with hot cocoa and head out the door to find the perfect real tree and that was the only tree we would put up in our home. Until one year when I bought a small artificial tree for the boys to have upstairs that we could put up much earlier and they could decorate themselves.

We loved the fact that we could put the tree up in November and leave it all throughout the New Year without having to clean up pine needles, remember to water it or be concerned about it being a fire hazard. Which began the transition from real trees to artificial ones. A transition from one season to the next.


I have a friend who is an empty nester but has also been caring for an elderly parent who just went home to be with the Lord. This friend normally decorates her home beautifully in the Christmas season but has chosen to only put out a nativity scene.

Which really isn’t that what the Christmas Season is really about anyway?

The nativity, the birth of Jesus Christ. The Great I am who humbled himself by coming to earth and taking on human form to live to die that we may be saved.

For the remainder of this year, I plan to throw out all of my preconceived ideas and expectations of the season out the window and rest in the precious gift we have been given through Jesus Christ. My hope is that you will show yourself some much-needed grace and do the same.

How will you choose to use your gifts, resources and time in this season of life? How will you choose to live for the remainder of this year? Begin pondering what you can do for the kingdom of God in this season of your life with the gifts that you have been given for 2018, but linger in the present of the here and now.

Choose to be present in these last few days and moments of 2017. Cherish the love of our Savior Jesus Christ. Be present, be intentional and love those around you well.

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The Mom Gene

Posted by Misty Phillip

By His Grace: Seek Jesus, Study the Word, Grow in Grace Bible Study Author, Christian Lifestyle Blogger, & Speaker www.MistyPhillip.com


  1. welcomeheart 12/15/2017 at 10:25 am

    love this, Misty. I need to choose to be present to my family and friends even as i finish the present shopping and wrapping. tomorrow is our annual neighborhood chirstmas coffee. praying that neighbors will come who are shy and need a friend and that they will see Jesus in our home. thanks, again. s.


    1. Misty Phillip 12/15/2017 at 11:05 am

      Sue, What a treat for your neighbors! I know you will spill Jesus all over them. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! <3 Misty


  2. Yes and Amen to all of this, Misty! Comparison is the thief of joy, and only leads to discontentment. I know, because I’ve lived most of my life there. I don’t recommend it. I’m learning to walk in my own giftings and not be ashamed of all that I can’t do, but instead celebrate all that I can do, by God’s grace. My life and walk will look different from yours, or the next person’s, and that’s okay. Acceptance is half the battle. 😉
    Thanks for sharing today!
    (Pleasantly visiting from Fresh Market)


    1. Misty Phillip 12/15/2017 at 9:29 pm

      Hi! Rachel, Thanks so much for your kind words. I am glad that I am not alone here. You are right acceptance is half the battle. Thanks for stopping by today. Blessings, Misty


  3. Thanks Misty, usually I try to have everyone’s gift way before now, but I have definitely found that doing this at the last minute has interfered in my attentiveness to the Lord. Thanks for reminding me that there is little to be gained by putting things before my Heavenly Father


    1. Misty Phillip 12/15/2017 at 9:32 pm

      Well if it makes you feel any better I have a ton of shopping left to do! That is one of the things I haven’t had a chance to do since I have been sick. Thanks so much for stopping by today. I hope you have a blessed Christmas and New Year!


  4. I love this! It is so true that we all have different giftings and throughout the seasons of our lives those giftings might show up in different ways or we may have to use them differently than we didn’t before. Just really good stuff! And I hope you are feeling better!


    1. Misty Phillip 12/15/2017 at 9:36 pm

      Hi! Stacey, Thanks so much for stopping by Today and for your kind words. Blessings to you!! ❤️ Misty


  5. What a lovely reminder not to fall into the trap of comparing ourselves with the next person. I wish God had blessed me with the decorating gene but it doesn’t seem to be that way. I do however love looking at the beauty others create and I appreciate it very much. It inspires me to do new things. We all have our talents and gifts and should be please with the things God has granted us. Thanks for sharing. Connecting from Grace Girls.


    1. Misty Phillip 12/17/2017 at 11:32 pm

      Hi! Jaime, Thanks so much for your kind words! I hope you have a very Merry Christmas and blessed New Year! ❤️


  6. Love this! Definitely time to throw out expectations for the season and just enjoy it. So many people get wrapped up in the craziness of the season and end up not enjoying it!


    1. Misty Phillip 12/18/2017 at 9:13 am

      Thanks for adding to the conversation. Hope you have a very Merry Christmas!


  7. ewebster20142017 12/18/2017 at 10:15 am

    My pastor did a sermon on rest yesterday, and it made me realize how much I think I’ll find rest in my circumstances. Like you mentioned, I need to find rest in Christ this season instead of my expectations!


    1. Misty Phillip 12/18/2017 at 10:18 am

      Blessings to you! Hope you enjoy a blessed Christmas week and find rest in Jesus. ❤️


  8. Love this post! Thanks for reminding me to be present. Wishing you a very Merry Christmas!


    1. Misty Phillip 12/18/2017 at 11:02 am

      Thank you! Blessings and have a wonderful Christmas and blessed New Year!


  9. This is SO good, Misty! I needed to hear all that, for sure. Not feeling guilty for both the things that are definitely not my giftings, and not feeling guilty for the gifts I actually do have! 🙂 Hope you are feeling better very soon— a beautiful, blessed Christmas to you! Stopping by from #saltandlight


  10. I love this, friend. Such good wisdom here. — So sorry you’ve been sick. Praying for you. If I were in TX, I’d help you out. ((hug)) My 19 year old son is sick right now, too, so we may all be sick by Christmas. I’ve been diffusing thieves essential oil a lot to try to minimize its impact on us all. Hope you feel better soon. Merry Christmas, Misty. ♥


    1. Misty Phillip 12/19/2017 at 12:26 pm

      Hi! Brenda, Thanks so much!! So many been are sick now. Hope y’all stay well!! We are using our essential oils too! I am especially loving Christmas Spirit with a few drops of tea tree oil…Blessings to you and your family this Christmas and into the New Year! ❤️🎄


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