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Lisa Appelo: Life Can Be Good Again

Lisa Appelo: Life Can Be Good Again

On this episode of the By HIs Grace podcast, Misty Phillip sits down with Lisa Appelo, widow, and mother to seven amazing children. As a member of Widow Mama Collective, a Facebook community for young widows. she helps women find hope in the hard places of loss. A popular blogger, Lisa loves seeing women flourish in the strength of God’s promises.

Lisa shares the story of suddenly losing her husband, and how her life was shattered into a million pieces. Lisa shares how we can walk alongside grieving people. Whether it is the loss of a dream, or the tragic loss of a loved one. Lisa shares wisdom on what we can do, and say when others are grieving a loss.

Key Takeaways

“Nothing we can say can really comfort the way we want it too. We can’t fix them.”
Don’t say things like…
“At least you are young enough to remarry.” or “At least you’ll see them again.”
“They rush someone through their pain and try to slap on a platitude to explain it. Not saying anything is better.”
What you can do…
Offer to pray specifically for them.
Don’t discount the small practical ways you can help. There are a lot of tangible ways to walk alongside someone with grief.
“I was just so utterly dependent on God.”
Lament says..
I don’t understand, but I trust you. Through lamenting Lisa would
Cry out to the Lord. Pray. Ask hard questions. Get in the word.
How can you move forward in faith beyond fear.
We wonder if God will be faithful to us, and that is fear. Take your thoughts captive and replace the lies.

How can we re-shape our broken hearts? Sometimes we need to borrow hope.

These are places of deep Spiritual warfare.

Give yourself permission to grieve. There are no short cuts through losses in life. Active grief is exhausting. Give yourself space to grieve.


What do you do when you are suddenly navigating a life you didn’t sign up for? Lisa Appelo understands deeply. She’s experienced the raw emotions and uncertainty that come when everything falls apart. Lisa went to bed married and woke up a widow and single mom to seven children. She wrestled with impossible questions about her future–and then found life-changing answers that gave her the strength to move forward with true joy.

With compassion and rich biblical insight, Lisa will help you:

· find your footing when circumstances bring massive change;
· process hard emotions with God, who welcomes them;
· overcome paralyzing fear with three scriptural steps; and
· anchor your faith when your hope seems threadbare.

Your unexpected future may feel like Plan B, but it’s God’s purposeful Chapter Two for you as He reshapes your shattered heart. With each tender, intentional step, you’ll see you will not merely survive this, but that life can be good again.


Life Can Be Good Again: Putting Your World Back Together After Your World Falls Apart – Bethany House

Begin reading Chapter One for FREE!

Scripture References

“We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ,” – 2 Corinthians 10:5 ESV

“And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19 ESV

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.” – James 1:2-4 ESV

“For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison,  as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.”  – 2 Corinthians 4:17-18 ESV

Connect with Lisa

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Jen & AJ: Bible Study & Community

Jen & AJ: Bible Study & Community

Misty Phillip sits down with Arabah Joy and Jen Evangelista, who run Sojo Academy, an online community for Christian women. They discuss Bible Study and the importance of community. We discuss the Bible methods used in Sojo Academy. At Sojo, they combine topical, chapter, Biographical, and book studies. Their goal is to teach women to dig into the Bible for themselves. We talk about the importance of community, and the life of believers. 

Key Takeaways

Context matters when studying the scriptures!

Spend a lot of time meditating on the word. Take it word by word – phrase by phrase. 

“Bible study is not a competition.” – AJ

“The goal is to encounter God.” – AJ

“Be intentional.” – Jen

“Find a book of the Bible, and just start reading it.” -Jen

“We have to be rooted and grounded in the word” – Misty


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Connect with Jen & AJ

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Jen Evangelista is married to Brad and mom to 4 pretty cool kids. She has been in ministry with her husband for over 24 years, teaching kids, college students, and women of all ages and cultures. Jen is a practicing Pediatrician. She has a passion for the local church, missions, teaching, and above all else, the Gospel. And she loves finding creative ways to dig deeper into God’s Word with other women.

Arabah Joy is married to Jackson and adoptive and biological mom to four active kids. Her 22 years in ministry include church planting, 14 years of overseas missionary service, writing, teaching, and mentoring. She especially loves sharing Bible study methods and hands-on, actionable tools so others can experience the same life-transforming power of God’s word that she has in their everyday lives


Molly DeFrank: Digital Detox

Molly DeFrank: Digital Detox

On this episode of the By HIs Grace podcast, Misty Phillip sits down with Molly DeFrank, the founder of the online Digital Detox, where she helps free families from their addictions to devices. We talk about detoxing from tech, the numbing out of dopamine levels, giving our kids a love of reading, the science behind the detox. Learn to be technology in its proper place.

Molly has a degree in international relations and worked as a press aide for former California governor Arnold Schwarzenegger. These days, she is a stay-at-home mom and foster mom to six kids ages twelve and under.

Key Takeaways

“It’s like flipping the switch. You get your kids back, they’re happier, they are calmer, they get along better, and they’re more creative”

Reset Dopamine levels.

Parents are in charge of their kids.

Bring your kids in on the conversation.

Two week digital detox….A simple two-week tech reboot can change everything. It refreshed, renewed, and transformed Molly DeFrank’s kids. Her new book explains how she did it and you can, too.

Digital Detox – Why should I do it?

If digital entertainment has an unhealthy hold on your children, if they’re grumpy
or throw tantrums after screen time or are glued to their devices and bored by
everything else, a digital detox is for you. Total removal of all digital entertainment is a tested and proven way to get back into the driver’s seat when it comes to screen time in your home. Apps and games are engineered to release excessive amounts of dopamine in our kids’ brains. Post-screen tantrums are related to dopamine crashes. Your detox recalibrates the dopamine levels in your kids’ brains.

How do I do it?

Two weeks, zero digital entertainment. In two weeks, you can UNDO the tech trance. Unplug, cold-turkey. Notice your kids’ giftings, areas for improvements, and interests. Develop a list of screen free fun ideas. Open the books! Gently nudge your most reluctant readers into reading for pleasure. Using your observations during the detox, you will create a long-term plan where technology serves as a tool for you, rather than the other way around. Your plan will use the best parts of tech, and ditch the stuff that caused undesirable behaviors in your kids. The goal is to put screens back in their right place in your home. The detox is the bridge to the results you crave.

Does it really work?

Our detox resolved a substantial amount of our parent/child conflicts. It turned our non-readers into bookworms. It revealed new interests to hone. It gave our family a fresh start. Moods improved dramatically. Our daughter skyrocketed five grade levels in reading over several months.

I’ve coached many families through their own detoxes. All of them shared incredible results. We heard things like: “We have so much more time to connect as a family”, “Fighting is at an all-time low”, “My girls have stopped asking for iPads and started doing other activities,” and “Molly—I have new kids.” The detox is simpler than parents could hope, and change is more dramatic than they can imagine.

When is the best time to begin?

A long weekend or extended vacation is ideal, or whenever both parents can be home. One fun option is to kick off a detox with a camping trip, where no internet reception is available. That said, there is no perfect time to begin. So if you can’t start on a weekend or the idea of camping makes you want to cry, just get your spouse on board and then pick a date on your calendar. Any day that ends in “y” will do.

Are you sure I can do this?

Not only are you detox candidates, but we are also kindred spirits. I happen to enjoy living life by the seat of my pants. Give me some broad principles and let me live the day as it comes. If you are this way, you can absolutely detox—and with wonderful results. I do recommend having several ideas ready for when things get wild (screamers in a store, fighting in the car at the drive-up pharmacy, etc.). Have your stacks of library books, your mental ideas for screen-free fun, and plenty of conversations with your spouse about observations and ideas. You do not have to check every box in this book for your detox to be effective. You do need to stick to its principles.



DIGITAL DETOX: It’s time to flip the switch and get your kids back.

Mom of six, Molly DeFrank was sick of screen-time meltdowns. She wanted more for her family, so she pulled the plug, declaring a digital detox for her kids. The transformation blew her away. She got her sweet, happy kids back. The detox was easier than she could have hoped and the results were better than she could have dreamed. In just two weeks, her children were free from the grip of digital devices. Their moods shifted immediately and their creativity exploded. They learned how to entertain themselves and enjoy life without screens.

Her experiment led to a total tech overhaul that changed her family’s life. The book details how she did it in just fourteen days, and how readers can, too.


As if parenthood weren’t stressful enough, parents in 2022 are wading through entirely new challenges that didn’t exist for any previous generation. We are drowning in digital entertainment and distractions. Kids are literally addicted to and spend HOURS each day staring at screens and taking in images and messages – from who knows where.

On average, children ages 8-12 in the United States spend 4-6 hours a day watching or using screens, and teens spend up to 9 hours (
Studies show that 93.6% of Americans significantly increased their screen time in 2020-2021.

f parents don’t take a moment to clarify the role they want tech to play in their homes, it will continue to seep in and monopolize, stealing the moments, days, and years meant for connecting with, training, and forming their kids’ hearts and worldviews.
Parents are having vastly fewer conversations with their kids, resulting in disconnection and distance in their relationships and loss of influence.


Digital Detox: The Two-Week Tech Reset for Kids

The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains

Connect with Molly

Molly DeFrank Instagram



Katie: The Good Patriot

Katie: The Good Patriot

On this episode of the By His Grace Podcast, host Misty Phillip has an incredibly interesting conversation with Katie, The Good Patriot. Katie creates numerous videos that defend traditional family values, fighting for freedom, and what she refers to as “good ole boy” stuff. Her goal in work is to encourage individuals in navigating these difficult circumstances in which we live. 

Katie and Misty discuss the importance of faith in preparing for difficult times – prepping for emergency situations, thinking through situations practically, and the ways in which Christians can actively prepare for dangers that may arise. This conversation is ideal for the Christian who is uncertain about the way to manage our current political and global climate. It is full of practical tips and powerful encouragement. 

Key Takeaways

  • “I try to concentrate on the practical ways of doing things.” 
  • “There are some things that I can control.” 
  • “These times are so heavy especially for Americans where many of us have not been tested on this level.” 
  • “As Christians, we are supposed to pull our own weight.” 
  • “The Bible is very clear that when you see danger coming, you prepare accordingly.” 


Katies Website

Good patriot is all about celebrating all that is good about our country God, guns, freedom and more. They sell patriotic home decor and T-shirts to display their beliefs and values to encourage others and sends a message for what they stand for. Katie reaches people through her funny videos, and sometimes more serious videos to inspire other to love God and country.

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