by Peter Phillip | Jun 22, 2023 | Podcast
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On this episode of By His Grace, host Misty Phillip discusses the complex issue of transgenderism with guests Riley Gaines and Pamela Garfield-Jaeger. Misty introduces the topic by looking at scriptures. Riley shares her experience of competing against a biological male in the NCAA Women’s Swimming Championship, which inspired her to fight against gender denying ideologies. Pamela talks about the dangers of affirming care and mental health services, which can harm people who struggle with gender identity issues. The episode also covers the physical and emotional harm caused by harmful content, and the importance of standing firm and not compromising.
Biographies
Riley Gaines, a 12 time All-American swimmer with 5 SEC titles was a successful female swimmer at University of Kentucky with ambitions to pursue a dental degree. That post-graduate ambition and her entire life was changed when she was forced to share a locker room and then compete against biological male Lia Thomas at the 2022 NCAA Women’s Swimming Championship.This uneven challenge, not just for Riley but for every woman competing in the pool that day, was made even more traumatic when the NCAA officials insisted on giving Lia Thomas the trophy, despite tying Riley down to the hundredth of a second in the event. Riley can recall wondering why no one was standing up for her or for any women in the room. This moment became her call to action – to defend and protect America’s daughters against the woke left and their gender-denying ideology. Biological men should not take opportunities for success in sports away from women. Biological men should not share locker rooms with women. Join Riley today and help Protect America’s Daughters.
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Pamela Garfield-Jaeger is a licensed clinical social worker with over 20 years of experience in community based agencies, home visits, hospitals, and schools. She obtained her degree from New York University in 1999. Unfortunately, in 2016, Pamela was diagnosed with a rare health condition that left her disabled and unable to work for four years. During this time, our country became more divided. Despite the setback, Pamela remains dedicated to helping others through her work as a social worker.
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[00:00:14] Podcast discusses transgenderism, women’s sports challenges.
[00:04:00] Trans athlete wins, causes tie, controversy.
[00:08:07] Don’t get discouraged, majority supports athletes.
[00:11:12] Therapist speaks out against woke ideology.
[00:15:33] Lupron: Reversible or irreversible side effects?
[00:17:04] Docusrama on harmful effects of transgenderism.
Biblical References
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” – Genesis 1:27-28 ESV
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality. – 1 Corinthians 6:9 ESV
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. – 1 Corinthians 6:18 ESV
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. – 1 Corinthians 7:2 ESV
God’s Wrath on Unrighteousness
For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who by their unrighteousness suppress the truth.For what can be known about God is plain to them, because God has shown it to them. For his invisible attributes, namely, his eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly perceived, ever since the creation of the world, in the things that have been made. So they are without excuse. For although they knew God, they did not honor him as God or give thanks to him, but they became futile in their thinking, and their foolish hearts were darkened. Claiming to be wise, they became fools, and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images resembling mortal man and birds and animals and creeping things.
Therefore God gave them up in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, to the dishonoring of their bodies among themselves, because they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever! Amen. For this reason God gave them up to dishonorable passions. For their women exchanged natural relations for those that are contrary to nature; and the men likewise gave up natural relations with women and were consumed with passion for one another, men committing shameless acts with men and receiving in themselves the due penalty for their error. And since they did not see fit to acknowledge God, God gave them up to a debased mind to do what ought not to be done.
They were filled with all manner of unrighteousness, evil, covetousness, malice. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, maliciousness. They are gossips, slanderers, haters of God, insolent, haughty, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, foolish, faithless, heartless, ruthless. Though they know God’s righteous decree that those who practice such things deserve to die, they not only do them but give approval to those who practice them. –Romans 1:18-32 ESV
A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God. – Deuteronomy 22:5 ESV
Topics:
Swimming Competition and Transgenderism
Riley had plans to compete at national championships while in college, when she competed against a male athlete who had recently transitioned from men’s to women’s team. Although they tied, Leah Thomas won 200 freestyle, and the NCAA official gave trophy to Leah Thomas for pictures.
Female Athletes and Unfair Advantages
Many female athletes get discouraged when facing unfair advantages. We need to stand firm and not compromise despite the challenges. Overwhelming support for female athletes facing this issue.
New Docudrama on Gender Transformation
Gender Transformation: The Untold RealitiesThe transgender movement has recently gained national attention; from the recent controversy of big corporations like Budweiser and Target over their support for the transgender movement, to transgender competitors outperforming female athletes and male prisoners identifying as trans to transfer into female prisons. A new trend has emerged among children who are being taught at young ages that they can choose their own gender. What is behind the rise of transgender movement today? And what are the implications on our children and youth? Coming out on June 19th on Epoch TV Reenacts real-life stories and shows the harm
Parents Guide to Mental Health
Pamela has created online classes for parents. Encourages parents to speak out against CRT, gender ideology, and victim mentality.
Criticism of Gender Ideology
Effects of hormones and surgeries for transition are being dismissed. Use of puberty blockers can lead to sterilization and physical problems. The Truthful Therapist is an advocate for parents, families, and therapists who oppose gender ideology.
Speaker’s Personal Journey
Experienced a health problem that forced her to leave work. Came back to work in 2021 and noticed changes in gender ideology and victim mentality. Displaced again for choosing not to get the COVID vaccine.
Keywords:
docusrama, harmful content, reenactment, emotions, harm, families, individuals, young people, society, documentary, swimming, national championships, Leah Thomas, transgenderism, mental health, parents guide, online classes, woke ideology, CRT, affirming care, discrimination, puberty blockers, gender ideology, therapy, Lupron, physical problems, female athletes, unfair advantages, media portrayal, health problem, surgeries, COVID vaccine, hijacking of profession, masking.
by Misty Phillip | Jun 16, 2023 | Podcast
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“On this episode of By His Grace, host Misty Phillip interviews Doris Swift at the NRB conference about her new book, “Surrender the Joy Stealers: Rediscover the Jesus Joy in You.” Doris talks about the importance of finding joy even during difficult times and how it can help us share our love for Jesus. Misty and Doris discuss surrendering our joy stealers to God and finding strength in Jesus’ joy. The episode also delves into the Fierce Calling podcast, the personal relationship with Jesus, and the importance of surrendering everything to God, using our experiences for God’s glory.”
Doris Swift
In ministry for over 30 years, it’s Doris’s joy to encourage and equip women to walk deeper in God’s word and take action where their PASSION, COMPASSION, and CONVICTION intersect, in other words, their Fierce Calling. I’m an author, speaker, founder of Fierce Calling MInistires, and host of the award-winning Fierce Calling Podcast.
Book
Topics Covered
The Importance of Joy, The Book of John’s Approach to Joy, Finding Joy in Difficult Times, The Surrendering of Joy Stealers, The Fierce Calling Podcast, Abiding in Jesus for Joy, Building a Personal Relationship with Jesus, The Value of Transparency and Overcoming Shame
Joy can shift perspectives and help others share their love for Jesus.
The Book of John emphasizes surrendering joy stealers and abiding in Him.
Author’s book on joy includes a foreword by Suzanne Eller and encourages readers to find more information about its author.
Speaker expresses gratitude for Misty’s endorsement and encouragement during hurricane season.
Speaker “lives through” their book on joy after their home floods and finds strength despite feeling exhausted.
“Joy of the Lord is your strength” message encourages seeking refuge and building strength in Jesus’ joy.
Sharing stories of personal struggles and surrendering joy stealers to Jesus is key to finding renewed joy and peace.
Fierce Calling podcast seeks to inspire and provide listeners straightforward application of biblical truth.
Abiding in Jesus’s love and pruning by the Father helps bear more fruit and experience the joy of Jesus.
Building a personal relationship with Christ is essential to abide and experience Jesus’s joy.
Surrendering everything to Jesus can redeem all messes for God’s glory.
Overcoming shame and finding transparency can brighten any situation and bring us closer to Jesus.
Time Stamps
Live from NRB conference, interviewer excited to speak with Doris about her new book “Surrender the Joy Stealers” and her resilient attitude despite life’s obstacles.
At an event, women anonymously shared their joy stealers and surrendered them to God. The speaker was moved by the struggles they faced and inspired a study to work through their issues and surrender them to God.
“Fierce Calling” podcast features guests sharing stories of their passionate and compassionate work, offering practical biblical truths to inspire listeners to pursue their own calling for God’s kingdom.
Abide in Jesus to experience his joy; pruning leads to more fruit; joy is not dependent on circumstances.
Don’t hide secrets, surrender to God, and use experiences for his glory; woman had a teen pregnancy and felt shame until meeting Jesus.
Confessing junk is freeing; care what Jesus thinks, not people; the enemy isolates us but Jesus can redeem messes.
Choose joy even in difficult times, read Doris’ Book of John study for love and Jesus. Endorsed by Suzanne Eller. Find Doris and more about the book online.
Full Transcript
Misty Phillip
Doris Swift. Welcome to the By His Grace podcast. My friend. I’m so excited to have you here.
Doris Swift
Thank you so much for having me, Misty. I’m really excited to be here today.
Misty Phillip
Yeah. So if you all hear a little noise in the background, I don’t know if we’ll be able to edit it out. But we are live at the NRB conference and I was so excited to see that Doris was going to be here because I wanted to interview her about her new book surrender the Joy. Stealers rediscover the Jesus joy in you. And I had the incredible honor of getting a sneak peek at this before it hit the shelves when she asked me to endorse it. So if you all don’t know Doris, she is just so bubbly and full of joy, and the Jesus joy in her is just so evident. And I know that it’s not just because life’s always been super easy. The fun, funny thing about that is Doris has been working on this Bible study for a while, and she’s gone through a lot of things that could steal her joy, but she’s surrendered those joy stealers. And so I’m thinking, Doris, about you’re in the middle of writing this study and going through that and your entire home floods. Like, how do you have joy when that happens?
Doris Swift
Yes. First, I want to thank you so much, Misty. It was just such an honor for you to endorse the Bible study, so thank you for that and all those sweet, encouraging words. As always. It was definitely a challenge going through having our home flood after Hurricane Ian came through, and I just was living the book. Oftentimes you hear authors say when they’re writing a book, they’re living through it. And I can honestly say that regardless of what was happening, no matter what, I grabbed hold of the fact that Jesus told us that his joy would be in us, that our joy would be full. And I always grasped hold that my joy was full no matter what, because I had Jesus joy in me to make my joy full. So regardless of how I felt or how exhausted I was, I knew that the joy of the Lord was my strength and that it’s the strength of others. And I want to share that message and encourage other people in that as well.
Misty Phillip
Absolutely. That’s so good. And you’re right. I don’t know what it is. I’m always leery when I start a new book. Like, do I really want to write about that and what’s going to happen with that? Yeah. Because that can be a whole thing right there. But I love that you said, the joy of the Lord is our strength. It’s our strength. And I think the enemy comes at us in so many different ways and life circumstances and things happen that really try to eat at that joy and try to just take away from our joy. But if we can focus on Jesus and study His Word and get in His Word, that changes our perspective on everything.
Doris Swift
Amen. And I have spoken with so many women who feel like where they’ve been, what they’ve done, what’s been done to them, or perhaps they’re going through a really challenging or difficult season and just can’t see past it, can’t see that God can use them even in the midst of the difficult seasons in their lives. And I just felt compelled by the Lord to write this study, to encourage women. It’s a six week study, six week Bible study. And the weeks begin with revealing what threatens to steal our joy, because before we can surrender it, we need to name it and we need to recognize what it is. And then we need to respond, which is the second week, by surrendering it to the Lord. And then we need to receive the joy openly and know that we have that joy that Jesus has given us. So to receive what God has for us, and then we are renewed. We want to renew our minds. We want to be renewed and refreshed, and then we want to rest in Him and find rest because we have work to do.
Misty Phillip
Absolutely, yes.
Doris Swift
And then the last week is reach because God produces the fruit in and through us, and he wants us to bear abundant fruit and be fruitful. And so what is all that floor? It’s not for us to keep to ourselves. A vine dresser doesn’t plant a vineyard so that he can keep it all to Himself. It’s for others. And so that’s what the Lord wants to do in and through us. And so it is a strategic six week Bible study rooted in John 15, that helps women rediscover the overflowing, ever present Jesus joy within that fills them, empowers them, and ripens the fruit that God produces in their lives.
Misty Phillip
That’s so beautiful. What inspired you to write this study?
Doris Swift
There was an event that I spoke at some years ago, I believe it was 2014, and I was speaking on joy, and I asked women to write on little slips of paper what threatened to steal their joy that day. And it was all anonymous. They could write anything they want, and they deposited them into this box up front. And then they took a white carnation as like a symbolism of, yeah, I’m going to release this to God. I’m going to surrender this joy stealer today, and I’m going to take up the joy that Jesus gave me and the peace that he offers. And I don’t really think much about it. I figured there’d be things in that box, like busy schedules and different things that might overwhelm us throughout the day. But when I brought that box home and I just planned to read them and pray over them that the women wouldn’t take them back once they surrendered them. And when I read through each one. By the time I got to the last one, it was like a full on ugly cry because I just was so overwhelmed with compassion for these women who were going through such difficult seasons, and they felt safe to be honest about it, because their name wasn’t on it, but God knew who they were. There were so many things that they were dealing with addictions and marriage struggles and things with their kids and all kinds of things like that. So it just inspired the study so that women can work through their joy sealers, release them to God, because surrender is so key. And so once they can surrender those, it doesn’t mean their circumstances will even change from what they can see. But God is always doing something that they can’t see, and he wants to use them for his glory.
Misty Phillip
Yeah, absolutely. I’ve experienced that in my own life. Some of the biggest things that I held secret or private that I didn’t want to know anybody to know. But once I released that and was able to speak about it, then, now I have total freedom over it where I didn’t have that before, but now I do. And God’s brought so much healing in my life, but I had to say it, I had to admit it, I had to confess it, I had to surrender it, and then let the Lord do what only he can do. So I have a question for you. What do you hope women are going to get out of this study?
Doris Swift
I would hope women would grow closer to Jesus and that they would throw off any shame that they’re wearing right now because there’s so many women walking around with shame and the things that threaten to steal their joy. So I would hope that through this book that they can discover what their joy stealers are, what is holding them back, and then surrender it and then walk forward in their purpose and their calling. Their fierce calling.
Misty Phillip
Yeah, absolutely. We didn’t even touch on this. But Doris, you are the host of the Fierce Calling podcast, and tell everybody about your show if they don’t know your show.
Doris Swift
Thank you. Yes. On Fierce Calling, I talk with guests who are taking action where their passion, compassion and conviction intersect, which is my definition of a fierce calling because we all have something that we’re passionate about. And I want the guests to come on, share their stories, how God is using them, provide practical ways to apply that biblical truth to their lives, the lives of the listeners, so that then they can step out of any doubt they have and walk in their fierce calling. And the guests come from all walks of life. They come from all different types of ministry, service, and different things in their lives that they’ve experienced. But we’re all connected by our stories, so it is so precious to hear the stories of so many of these guests, and I would usually say women, but I’ve had a few male guests on too. So it’s been really fantastic to see how women have really been able to experience transformation just by hearing how God has brought not only the guests through, but they can look back in their own lives and see, oh yeah, God has brought me through this or that, and I do have something to offer. And what I’ve been through or what I’m going through is something that God can use for the furtherance of the kingdom.
Misty Phillip
Absolutely. Revelation says that we overcome by the blood of the Lamb and the word of our testimony.
Doris Swift
Amen.
Misty Phillip
And so every time we tell our story, we’re overcoming, and we can help other people to overcome as well. Well, you mentioned shame is one of the big things that people hold on to, whether it’s shame or maybe it’s anger or maybe whatever those particular struggles are that they’re dealing with that really want to rob them of their joy. If someone is struggling with that, what would you tell them? How do they surrender the joy?
Doris Swift
What is so important, and as we read in John 15, is that Jesus tells us he gives us the keys to experience the joy that he has given us freely, and that is to abide in Him. And abide simply means remain. I know sometimes we can try to make things more difficult or complicated or confusing, but abide means remain, and he tells us to abide in Him. He abides in us, abide in his love as he abides in the Father’s love. And he is the vine, the true vine, and we’re the branches. And the Father is the vine dresser. And a vine dresser intricately and very personally prunes the vines so that they can bear more fruit. And it’s very delicate, it’s very intimate, and it draws us into this beautiful picture of the Trinity of God that we’re part of that. And when we abide in the vine, we will experience the joy that Jesus has already given us, which is what really the Bible study is about, is about the fact that Jesus gave us his joy, gave it to us already. It’s ours. And joy is not dependent on circumstances. It can exist simultaneously with difficult seasons in our lives. It’s not the same as happiness. It’s not based on how we feel. It’s truth. It’s God’s truth, his promise. And we can stand on that. And each day when we awaken, his mercies are new. Every morning, as the Word says.
Misty Phillip
I hold on to that one every morning.
Doris Swift
Yeah.
Misty Phillip
So let’s talk about remaining for a minute. So maybe we have somebody listening who doesn’t really know. They don’t know John 15, they don’t know what we’re talking about. How does someone remain in Christ? How do you stay connected to the vine?
Doris Swift
Yeah, well, it’s so important to have that personal relationship with Jesus Christ. So if you have not yet surrendered your life to Him, that is the first step and it is a beautiful thing. So many of us may have grown up in churches that never talked that way, that never mentioned anything about a personal relationship. Growing up, I knew who God was. I knew who Jesus was. I knew who the Holy Spirit was. I loved them. I knew who they were about them, but I didn’t know them personally. I didn’t know that I could have a personal relationship with Jesus and that he was my friend, that he was my Lord, and that he was my Savior. So the very first step is to surrender our lives to Christ and just admit we’re sinners. We’re all sinners saved by grace.
Misty Phillip
All of us are sinners. And it doesn’t matter how big your sin is, because I am, like Paul says, the chief of sinners. And even in the midst of our sin, jesus died that we might have life. He came while we were sinning. So don’t let your sin hold you back, because I think that goes along with that shame. We commit sin. We know it’s wrong. The enemy is our accuser and comes against us, accusing us. And so we feel like we can’t come to the Lord, but that’s where we experience freedom when we come to the Lord, and we just confess our sins.
Doris Swift
Yeah. And it’s just so freeing for us to do that. And I even wrote a post years ago entitled what if Everyone Found Out? Or something like that. What if everybody found out? Because so many of us have had things buried in the back of our closets and we don’t want anybody to know. And it takes so much energy to keep those things hidden. And we carry so much shame and worry that people would find out the truth. And if they found out, they wouldn’t like us or they would judge us. But the truth is that God knows everything, and we can surrender it all to Him. And he loves us. And maybe we’re not supposed to share it with everyone at once. We don’t want to cast our pearls before swine or what the Bible says, but God will give us opportunities to share our stories with others. And our experiences, good and bad, can be used for his glory. I had a teen pregnancy and I was a teen mom. And for years I carried shame. I wasn’t ashamed of my baby, but I was ashamed because, honestly, you can’t really hide that sin very long. It’s going to come out, people are going to notice. So instead of trying to hide the sin, I hid myself. And I didn’t want to come out. I didn’t want to see any of my friends. And that was a really challenging time in my life. I didn’t know where I fit in. I didn’t feel like I was really still a teenager, couldn’t hang out with my friends. And then I really wasn’t like a mom going to mom’s groups and those kind of things. So it was a difficult season. I had a very hard relationship. The person I was with, I was supposed to marry this person, and he did not turn out to be who he said he was. And it was a really tough time for an 18 year old girl to be going through those things. And for years I carried the shame until I met Jesus.
Misty Phillip
When you meet Jesus, it changes everything.
Doris Swift
It changed everything. It just transformed my life. And I threw off the shame. And I even actually, later on, began volunteering at a crisis pregnancy center because I had been through experience like that. I had a supportive family, but some women don’t, and they’re lost as I felt lost. So I could understand that not all of our stories are going to be the same, but we can use those experiences to minister to the hearts of others. And God really uses it in amazing ways.
Misty Phillip
That is so amazing. And I have my own closet full of junk that you can actually listen to podcasts all over the Internet and find out, because I got to the point with all my stuff, too, that once I confessed it, it was so free. And now I don’t really care what people think because I care what Jesus thinks and he’s the one that I want to please and the one that I want to serve. And so that’s beautiful. And we do have to remember that the enemy doesn’t want that for us, right? So he’s going to isolate us like you were isolated, right? The shame, the guilt, whatever tactic that he has to try to make us feel like people aren’t going to like us or the Lord won’t understand. And I just want to say, and I know you echo it, that that’s bull, right? It’s we need to bring it to Jesus and he can take our biggest messes and turn them into our message and redeem it all.
Doris Swift
Absolutely.
Misty Phillip
Well, I want to ask you a question about the Bible. What is your favorite book in the Bible and then why there are so many currently?
Doris Swift
It’s John. This is the Bible study.
Misty Phillip
They’re all good. And when you do a Bible study, speaking from personal experience, like, you dive deep into something and it really speaks to you. And John is so rich. I listen to the audible. I listen to Max McLean read the Bible every night before I go to bed. And sometimes I listen longer. It depends on how long it takes me to settle my brain down, but that’s just my sort of way to be calm and quiet and focus on the Lord. And I’ve been listening to John lately, and the Gospels are so rich, so much goodness.
Doris Swift
They really are. And I love so many of the books. There’s so much good nuggets of truth all throughout that we tend to grab hold of. We’ll quote verses from Philippians and Ephesians. My verse in Ephesians, I believe it’s four. One is to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called. And I love that verse. John is just amazing because, of course, I’ve been studying a lot with a study, but I also love the fact that if you have a new believer or someone that’s just coming to the faith, we can point them to John and say, read John. And you really can get to know Jesus through the Book of John. I also love Esther, which is amazing because the providence of God is all over that book, but yet he’s not mentioned.
Misty Phillip
I know. Is that amazing?
Doris Swift
Yeah, it’s so amazing, and it kind of reflects the fact that we can be Jesus to the world and even we want to speak his name, but in some arenas, we might not have the opportunity right then to do it. But the way that we live our life is a living sacrifice to the Lord, and it will bring others to Christ through our grace story, through the way we actually live it out. Because, let’s face it, Christians often are called hypocrites tell us to do this, but you’re not doing it. So the way we live our life, people are watching, and then it opens doors for opportunity to meet with people on a personal level and begin relationships that way.
Misty Phillip
Yeah, and I would totally agree with that. And even the fact of having joy, just being joyful right now, our world is really crazy and people are very selfish and self centered and in their own world. And even when we’re going through difficulty, we can still show up with joy. And that radically shifts people because they don’t understand how can you have joy in the midst of name it XYZ, right? A million different things that could steal our joy, but when we just carry joy, it opens up the door for us to share our love of Jesus. So I am so excited for the women to read your words, Doris, and to do this study to really dig into the Book of John and what the Lord has to say about abiding in Him and surrendering everything that causes us to the things that want to rob us of our joy. And the book is there’s a foreword by Suzanne Eller, who wrote a book on joy. She’s been on the podcast, and so that’s a great endorsement for the book right there as well. And so I’m just so excited for you. Please tell people where they can find you and find out more about you.
Doris Swift
Thank you. Well, the best way would be to go to my website, Doriswift.com, and you will find all of my social media links. You’ll find my podcast page and about the book where you can grab the book book and how you can be a part of this amazing journey to surrender your joy, stealers to God and rediscover the Jesus joy in you.
Misty Phillip
Yeah. That’s so great. We’ll put all of the links in the show notes. So, Doris, thank you so much for sharing your joy with me. I’m so glad to call you my friend and for sharing about your book on the podcast.
Doris Swift
Thank you so much for having me.
by Peter Phillip | Jun 6, 2023 | Podcast
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On this episode of By His Grace, Kim Allen talks about the importance of understanding our spiritual gifts and talents to find our place in ministry. She also emphasizes the significance of having the right people around us to guide and encourage us like a shepherd with a staff. Misty Phillip shares about the community coming together during Hurricane Harvey and how one can use their God-given gifts to help others in unexpected ways. The episode also touches upon insecurities and lack of confidence which are common struggles for women and how leading small groups has been life-changing for everyone involved. Kim Allen encourages listeners to fight insecurities and seek God’s guidance in fulfilling the works He has planned for them.
Kim Allen is a motivational speaker and author who has experienced firsthand the effects of lacking confidence and security in her own life. Throughout her career in pastoring and leading small groups, she noticed that many women struggled with feeling confident in their abilities despite being competent and well-educated. This inspired her to write about her own journey to self-discovery and share her personal stories in hopes of helping other women overcome their own insecurities. With her relatable and empowering message, Kim Allen aims to inspire women to become their best selves and achieve their dreams.
– Topic: Spiritual Gift Tests
– Discussion on commonly given spiritual gift tests by churches
– Story shared about how wrong positioning within the body of Christ can hinder one’s effectiveness
– Importance of understanding one’s gifts and talents to use them effectively
– Emphasis on having guidance from others to be in the right place in ministry
– Topic: Understanding Spiritual Gifts
– Discussion on how everyone has gifts that come in different measures
– Methods to learn about spiritual gifts like seeking help and getting into the Word
– Importance of using gifts for the glory of God
– Topic: Hurricane Harvey Relief
– Guest, Misty Phillip, shares how she used her skills to help those affected by the hurricane
– Importance of using one’s gifts to help others in unexpected ways
– Community coming together in times of need
– Topic: Mentoring
– Discussion on individual meetings based on personal needs
– Focus on building trust and encouraging others with scripture
– Bible stories and personal experiences used as encouragement
– Passion for helping others in their transformation, including spiritual growth
– Topic: Pursuing Dreams and Trusting God’s Plan
– Emphasis on being in the Word daily and the significance of community
– The importance of pursuing dreams and skills
– The idea that God has a plan for everyone and is working everything together for good
– Encouragement to prioritize meaningful connections over career advancement
– Topic: Kim Allen’s Career Path
– Kim Allen’s career path from IT to education
– Various roles in IT and education including developing curriculum and teaching technology to women
– The discovery of a passion for small group teaching
– Topic: Lack of Confidence in Women
– Observation of women struggling with confidence and insecurity
– Sharing personal stories to help others
– Emphasis on fighting insecurities to fulfill purpose and destiny
– Topic: Small Groups and Relationships
– Kim Allen’s passion for small groups and bringing people together
– Teaching more women’s events at her local church to create lifelong relationships and grow together
– Insecurities as an enemy of purpose and destiny
Kim’s links
Website | Book | Twitter | Facebook | Pintrest | Instagram
by Misty Phillip | May 20, 2023 | Podcast
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In this episode of By His Grace, Fred Stoeker shares his personal journey of addiction to pornography, heavy drinking, and chasing after multiple girlfriends. He experienced a spiritual awakening and used Christian teachings and prayers to take control of his actions. He is the author of “Every Man’s Battle” and “Every Young Man’s Battle,” which discusses the importance of controlling the eyes and mind to break free from addiction.
Summary
Fred provides an excerpt from the book he co-authored with his wife, Brenda entitled, “Battle On, Battle Over,” which highlights the increasing problem of porn addiction in women. The speaker warns that exposure to graphic content can create greater desire and urges listeners to prioritize purity. The episode also discusses the science behind how porn addiction affects the brain and how Christianity can help overcome this sin.
The Speaker’s Struggles with Addiction
- Addiction to pornography, heavy drinking, and chasing after multiple girlfriends.
- Spiritual awakening and began heavily attending church and learning.
- Marriage did not solve his sexual sin issue.
- Battle against his addiction and with the help of the Lord, was able to control his eyes and mind to break free almost entirely.
Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle
Discusses the importance of controlling the eyes and mind as a defense against addiction.– Only surrendering to the Lord can fill the God shaped hole in our hearts.– Overcoming sin is a sanctification process, but God is gentle, kind, and loving, helping us overcome any struggle as long as we give that battle to Him.– The speaker learned to avoid triggers through God’s training.– Women have also found the books helpful in changing their behavior regarding eye movements.– Every Man’s Battle has been updated for its 20th anniversary, and it provides training on how the mind and neural pathways work when looking at pornography.
Fred and Brenda Stoker’s Work
- Married couple writing a book together for both men and women.
- There is currently a wave of sexual sin and porn addiction in both men and women.
- Female sexuality is intensely relational and tied to feelings of loneliness and disconnection, while male sexuality is visual.– Pornographers have learned to tie romantic themes to porn to appeal to women.
- Women can get addicted to porn and seek it as a medication for loneliness and disconnection.–
- Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle provide practical steps to defend the eyes.
- Women with father wounds or broken marriages are particularly vulnerable to being hooked on porn.
Importance of Guarding Eyes and Mind
- Pornography can be destructive to both individuals and marriages.Call to prioritize purity in the present time.
- Overexposure to certain types of media can physically alter the brain by burning out receptors.
- Exposure to increasingly graphic content can create an increasing desire for more.
- The speaker emphasizes the need to use tools to guard one’s eyes and mind.
- The ultimate goal is to follow God’s ways and desire purity.
Pornography’s Effect on Men and Women
- Pornography is not just a problem for men, but increasingly for women as well.
- Misty shares her personal experience with husband’s struggle with pornography. Husband’s struggle began during stressful time with special needs son.
- Sexual sin may not be sexual at its root but may stem from financial pressure, weak manhood, or other pain points.
- Prayer and worship can help deal with pain and stress without resorting to sexual sin, leading to freedom from masturbation and the lustful gaze.
Battle On Battle Over
We live in a culture that’s awash in pornography and sexual sin. For the first time in history, a growing percentage of women have been swept up by the same savage undertow as men, and they are drowning together in this heaving, destructive sea.
Perhaps you’ve been gripped by the same relentless riptide, and it’s yanking you into a dark, addictive abyss, causing you to wonder if there’s a way out. Is sexual freedom even possible these days?
The answer is an affirmative yes, according to Brenda and Fred Stoeker, the co-authors of Battle On, Battle Over. In their remarkably frank and brutally honest book, they zero in on the root causes of sexual sin and highlight a major vulnerability in both male and female sexuality that sets you up for a fall. The modern-day scourge of sexual temptation is as close as the nearest smartphone, but Brenda and Fred will give you a roadmap to freedom.
You’ll discover how to shut down your sexual sin and experience total victory for the rest of your life. Whether you’re a man or a woman, if you have significant issues with pornography and sexual self-stimulation, let Battle On, Battle Over be your guide to conquering these foes once and for all.
Topics covered in Battle On, Battle Over:
• Is sexual purity even possible in our current culture?
• The great vulnerability in human sexuality that we call “The Stealth Trap.”
• Why women are now being addicted in large numbers for the first time.
• How our view of our own manhood, as men, can trap us.
• How to rebuild your soul to ensure a lifetime of freedom from porn and masturbation, through one-on-one worship, fasting, and the study of the Word.
• How sexual purity impacts individual destiny, family destiny, and local church destiny.
• How husbands and wives can work together to win the battle. It is not just every man’s battle, but every couple’s battle.
• Three open letters: One to single women, one to divorced men, and one to single men who’ve never been married.
Author Biography
Brenda Stoeker is a seasoned marriage teacher and a co-author of Every Heart Restored and The Healing Choice. She’s also a registered nurse and mother of four, and Fred and Brenda have been happily married for over forty years.
Fred Stoeker is co-author of the best-selling Every Man’s Battle and Every Young Man’s Battle., Every Man’s Marriage, and Every Young Man’s Battle. Every Man’s Battle is currently translated into nearly thirty languages and has sold well over 1,000,000 copies world-wide already. A graduate of Stanford University, Fred has won two Christian Book Award Gold Medallions and two Silver Medallions for writing excellence. He is also a popular conference speaker who travels both nationally and internationally to challenge men and women to become sexually pure and to reconnect in true intimate relationship with their spouses, all the while encouraging and equipping people to rise up and be Christian rather than simply seem Christian.
Today, Fred Stoeker is President of Living True Ministries, whose mission is to practically elucidate God’s truth for everyday living and to encourage and equip men and women to rise up and be Christian, rather than to simply seem Christian. (For more information, go to www.FredStoeker.com). Fred is also a well-known conference speaker who has spoken in or been televised into 59 nations, and who is bent upon challenging people to become sexually pure and to connect in true intimate relationships with their Father in Heaven and with their spouses and children on earth. Fred has been nominated for numerous writing awards and has won two Gold Medallion awards and two Silver Medallion awards for writing excellence. He has been married to his wife Brenda for over forty-one years and has four adult children following Christ, and he has co-written threebooks with Brenda, including the Silver Medallion winner Every Heart Restored. The other two books are Grief and a Shattered Spirit and the newest, Battle On, Battle Over, www.battleonbattleover.com.
Mike Yorkey is the author, co-author, or general editor of more than 120 books, including more than a half dozen with Brenda and Fred Stoeker.
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by Misty Phillip | May 10, 2023 | Podcast
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Welcome to the By His Grace Podcast, I’m Misty Phillip and today, I want to encourage my fellow moms as we approach Mother’s Day. Today I want to be discuss the importance of biblical motherhood and the impact it can have on our families and communities.
Motherhood is an incredible journey, full of joys and challenges.
It’s a journey that requires patience, love, and sacrifice. As we navigate this path, it can be easy to get caught up in the daily grind and lose sight of the bigger picture. But when we look to the Bible for guidance, we can find wisdom and encouragement to help us on this journey.
Proverbs 31:10-31 ESV
The Woman Who Fears the Lord
10 [d] An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself[e] with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.[f]
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.
Proverbs 31 is a beautiful passage that describes the qualities of a virtuous woman. This woman is a wife and a mother, and she is praised for her hard work, her wisdom, and her kindness. She is a woman who fears the Lord, and her children rise up and call her blessed. As mothers, we can learn a lot from this passage. We can strive to be women of integrity, who work hard to provide for our families and create a loving home environment. We can seek wisdom from the Lord and ask Him to guide us as we raise our children.
Biblical Examples of Strong Moms
As we study the Bible we find countless examples of strong and faithful mothers who raised children who went on to do great things. One such example is Jochebed, the mother of Moses. She was a Hebrew woman living in Egypt during a time when Pharaoh had ordered all Hebrew baby boys to be killed. But Jochebed refused to give up on her son and placed him in a basket in the Nile River, trusting that God would protect him.
Jochebed
Through God’s grace, Moses was rescued by Pharaoh’s daughter and grew up to become a great leader of the Israelites, leading them out of slavery in Egypt. Jochebed’s faith and determination remind us that even in the face of difficult circumstances, God can work miracles through the love and dedication of a mother.
Hannah
Another example is Hannah, the mother of Samuel. Hannah was unable to have children, and she prayed fervently to God for a son. When God blessed her with Samuel, she dedicated him to God’s service and raised him to be a faithful prophet. Hannah’s story shows us that even when we face disappointment or hardship, we can turn to God in prayer and trust that He has a plan for our lives and our children’s lives.
As mothers, we can learn so much from these biblical examples. We can be encouraged that our efforts in raising our children in the ways of the Lord can have a lasting impact.
We can trust that God is with us every step of the way and that He will equip us with everything we need to be the best mothers we can be.
Modeling the Christian Life
One of the most important things we can do as mothers is to model a life of faith for our children. We can teach them about God’s love and grace, and show them what it means to live a life that honors Him. We can pray for our children and ask God to protect them and guide them on their own faith journeys. We can read, study, and memorize scripture together.
Motherhood both challenging and rewarding!
Motherhood can be challenging, but it’s also one of the most rewarding roles we can have in life. When we embrace biblical motherhood, we can experience the joy of seeing our children grow and thrive, and we can make a positive impact on our families and communities.
Mom your work is valuable, your love is powerful, and your influence is eternal. Keep pressing on, and trust in God’s grace to guide you through every moment of motherhood.
Verses that have encouraged me in my motherhood journey
I want to share a few scriptures that have encouraged me in my motherhood journey.
Proverbs 22:6 ESV “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
3 John 4 ESV says, “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children are walking in the truth.”
Hebrews 12:1 ESV “Therefore, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us”
Galatians 6:9 ESV -“And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
So, to all the mothers out there listening today, I want to encourage you to keep pressing on. Remember that you are loved and valued by God, and that He has entrusted you with the incredible responsibility of raising your children. Seek His guidance and wisdom, and trust Him to help you on this journey. Thank you for tuning in to the By His Grace Podcast.
The Struggle is Real: But so is God
“The Struggle is Real but So is God” is a Bible study by Misty Phillip that explores the struggles and challenges that people face in their lives, and how God can help them overcome these challenges. The study focuses on practical ways to apply biblical principles to our everyday lives. The study emphasizes the importance of faith, prayer, and perseverance in facing the trials and difficulties that come our way. It encourages readers to trust in God’s wisdom and plan for their lives, even when things seem difficult or overwhelming.
Through this study, readers are challenged to deepen their relationship with God and to seek his guidance and strength in all areas of their lives. They are reminded that, even in the midst of struggles, God is always present and willing to help us overcome. “The Struggle is Real but So is God” is a practical and inspiring resource for anyone looking to deepen their faith and trust in God, and to find hope and strength in the midst of life’s challenges.
Purchase your copy of The Struggles Real:But so is God today!
by Misty Phillip | Apr 25, 2023 | Podcast
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Welcome to the By His Grace Podcast with Misty Phillip, where we explore the transformative power of God’s grace in our lives. In this episode, Misty interviews Shae Bynes, a passionate entrepreneur, speaker, and author of the book “Grace over Grind.” They discuss the importance of embracing God’s grace, overcoming the hustle mentality, and allowing God to guide your path to success. Also included in this episode.
- Hustle Culture vs the Kingdom of God
- Signs we may be grinding
- Inviting God into our Business
- Kingdom Collaborations
- Kairos Moments
- Supernatural Favor
Unforced Rhythms Of Grace
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” – Matthew 28-30 MSG
Shae Bynes
Shae Bynes is a passionate storyteller, mentor, and strategist who equips leaders to be catalysts for transformation in the marketplace. Founder and Chief Fire Igniter of Kingdom Driven Entrepreneur, is celebrating the 5th anniversary of her best-selling book Grace Over Grind: How Grace Will Take Your Business Where Grinding Can’t with a brand new expanded edition. New chapters, new insights, and new opportunities to encounter God powerfully in your life and business!
Connect with Shae Bynes
Grace Over Grind
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by Misty Phillip | Apr 19, 2023 | Podcast
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On this episode of the By his grace podcast, Misty Phillip sits down with Rhonda Stoppe to discuss Raising Sons to be Men. Bringing up boys isn’t for the faint of heart, but bestselling author Rhonda Stoppe has been there before—and she’s here to help! Drawing on insights from fellow boy-moms and from Scripture, Rhonda reveals why walking with Christ is every mom’s key to parenting well.
Topics discussed include:
- Teaching sons to rely on God and how to be Godly Men
- Moms of the Bible
- Story of Jachobed
- The Prodigal Son
by Misty Phillip | Apr 12, 2023 | Podcast
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Today’s social justice movements call for equality, civil rights, love . . . solid Christian values, right? What if there is more to social justice than Christians understand? Even worse: What if we have been duped into preaching ideas that actually oppose the Kingdom of God?
On this episode of By His Grace podcast Misty Phillip sits down her with friend, author, pastor, media consultant Lucas Miles. To discuss his new book, Woke Jesus: The False Messiah Destroying Christianity
Woke Jesusuncovers the real dangers to Christianity and America from the Christian Left, Progressive or Woke Christianity. These radical alternatives abandon traditional biblical interpretations regarding marriage, gender, racial equality, justice, original sin, heaven and hell, and salvation, replacing them within a new fabricated morality. This fabrication is built around political correctness, cancel culture, hedonistic values, obsession with public health, allegiance to the leftist state, universalism, and virtue signaling.
Author Lucas Miles—
A pastor and trusted voice in the American church who has consistently addressed some of the most challenging topics in religion—not only outlines how the radical left wing is co-opting Jesus for their own anti-religious views, but also provides a call to action for Christians to resist the siren song of social justice and Wokeism. Rather than ignoring the problems within the church, Miles shows Christians how to grow in the truth of God’s word by expanding their understanding of solid orthodox theology.
In Woke Jesus, Lucas discusses several very timely and relevant topics associated with the deceptions of Progressive Christianity with the American church, including:
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The history and origins of Wokeism, beginning with Gnosticism, eventually finding its place within a Hegelian and Marxist framework and then morphing into what we see today.
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How Woke Christianity abandons traditional biblical interpretations regarding marriage, gender, racial equality, justice, original sin, heaven and hell, and salvation, thus replacing those traditions with political correctness, cancel culture, hedonistic values, obsession with public health, allegiance to the Leftist state, universalism, and virtue signaling.
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How Progressive Christianity reduces Christ to a mere revolutionary, prophet, or sage who is only useful to the degree that His behavior aligns with liberal “morals” that support a progressive view of race, gender, and sexuality.
Woke Jesus argues that few institutions are responsible for unifying the nation more than the church. As such, it’s imperative, spiritually for the sake of the lost and geo-politically for global freedom, that orthodox Christianity proves true. For these reasons, every Christian should take seriously their role in pushing back the darkness of Wokeism and Critical Theory in all of its forms.
What is Woke Christianity?
Like all heresy, Woke Christianity is rooted in an element of truth, (as in God’s opposition to injustice), but encapsulates this truth with a convincing web of antibiblical ideology and extremism. As such, scripture is either downgraded, stripped of its authority, or frequently ignored, ac personal experience, like suffering or oppression and personal enlightenment take center stage in crafting Woke theology.
WOKE JESUS argues that few institutions are responsible for unifying the nation more than the Church. As such, it’s imperative, both spiritually for the sake of the lost and geo-politically for the sake of global freedom, that orthodox Christianity prove true. For these reasons, every Christian should take seriously their role in pushing back the darkness of Wokeism and Critical Theory in all of its forms.
For those requiring some practical examples of how to get started, here are some ideas:
1. Don’t Attend a Woke Church.
2. Know What Your Child Is Being Taught in School.
3. Support a Conservative Candidate or Run for Office.
4. Serve in a Helps Ministry.
5. Plant Yourself in Local Church.
Miles has spent years touring the country and warning of the dangers of “The Christian Left” and in In WOKE JESUS: The False Messiah Destroying Christianity, he provides guidance and a message of action and hope:
➢ Don’t ignore the problems within the church.
➢ Grow in the truth of God’s word and expand your understanding of solid orthodox theology.
➢ Refuse to allow your anger at the enemy to dilute your love for people.
➢ Be bold in sharing your faith with others.
➢ Remember truth and love are the keys to avoiding every error.
➢ Most importantly, don’t give up the fight – the church’s best days are still ahead.
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by Misty Phillip | Apr 4, 2023 | Podcast
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Welcome back to Part two of Standing for Traditional Values in a World Gone Woke. On this episode of the By His Grace podcast, Peter and Misty Phillip invite their friends Shea and Michelle Watson of the Pantry Podcast on the show to discuss Biblical marriage. Two amazing podcasts join forces in a remarkable two-part episode! Tune into both the By His Grace podcast and Spark Influence to hear exclusive content that you won’t find anywhere else. Don’t miss this special double feature opportunity – listen now! Our two-part episode will encourage you to stand strong for traditional values, so don’t forget to listen to both parts for maximum impact.
On this Episode
We discuss Biblical marriage and family and standing against culture. We will explore the importance of marriage in the Bible, God’s design for marriage, and how to navigate modern culture norms while still holding true to Biblical principles. We dive deep into the Bible’s timeless wisdom on marriage and family. We explore how God crafted a unique plan for marriage many years ago that still holds true today – no matter what society may dictate! Here you’ll find valuable guidance to help stay firm in your faith as you navigate through life with those closest to your heart.
We also discuss how to be a strong advocate for traditional values in the face of a growing woke culture. Including ways in which families can work together to ensure that their values are passed on from generation to generation. Through this podcast episode, we hope to equip listeners with the tools they need to stand firm in their faith and protect their families from being influenced by an increasingly woke culture.
Shea & Michelle Watson
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