Marriage and the Enneagram: Beth & Jeff McCord

Marriage and the Enneagram: Beth & Jeff McCord

Welcome to Season Two of the By His Grace Podcast. We have an amazing line-up for this season!

This week we dive into the Enneagram as a tool to help you in your marriage relationship. Beth McCord, Your Enneagram Coach, and her Pastor, husband Jeff sit down with me to share how the Enneagram has helped them better understand the why behind their actions and reactions in the context of their marriage. The McCord’s do a great job of simplifying the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective.

We also discuss their recently published book Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage and the nine companion journals, one for each Enneagram type.

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A Place at the Table: Kelly Minter

A Place at the Table: Kelly Minter

We close season one of the By HIs Grace Podcast with Thanksgiving and Praise for all the Lord has done throughout 2019 and look forward with eager anticipation to Season 2 of By His Grace in 2020. We will be taking a winter break to spend time with family, and friends to celebrate the birth of our risen Savior, Jesus Christ.

On this episode, I chat with fellow Bible Study author & teacher Kelly Minter to discuss the importance of opening our homes for hospitality. Kelly shares the hope of 1 Corinthians 13 and the importance of loving others. As we both prepare to have a house of full of guests this week for Thanksgiving, Kelly shares this nugget of wisdom that “People need your presence over perfection.” Sometimes we worry too much about the way our home looks, or our table setting, when the focus should be on the people God has placed right in front of us to love and serve. 

We conclude our conversation discussing some highlights from Kelly’s new cookbook A Place at the Table, which features stories from Kelly and delicious and easy recipes from herself and world renown Brazilian chef Regina Pinto. A Place at the Table offers accessible recipes made from whole seasonal foods, and includes heartwarming personal stories from Kelly.

A girl after my own heart, Kelly and Regina also talk about broths, seasonal drinks, canning, decor and herb gardening making A Place at the Table a perfect Christmas gift for the foodie in your life.

Kelly is on a mission to encourage women by speaking, writing, and singing throughout the United States. She also does a large part of her work on a boat along the Amazon river with Justice & Mercy International. She shares with thousands daily how to foster community through gathering. In her first cookbook, A Place At The Table, Kelly offers recipes, tips, and heartwarming, personal stories with the hope of meals turning away from quick transactions of consuming something for fuel into sharing a meal for nourishment and community. 

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Monica Schmelter: Life in the Public Eye

Monica Schmelter: Life in the Public Eye

My guest on the By His Grace podcast this week is Christian television host Monica Schmelter. Monica has worked in broadcasting for more than 20 years and her show “Bridges” is broadcast in over 50 million homes across the US. Her talk show is designed to showcase the hearts, struggles, and triumphs of Christians. Living in the public eye is not always easy. Monica openly shares her story of being in broadcasting and lessons she has learned along the way.

Monica Schmelter loves Jesus and her family. When she’s not interviewing guests for CTN’s Bridges television program, speaking, or writing books, she ponders very serious subjects like reducing the calorie count in chocolate.

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Shelley Singh: Shame and Honor Culture

Shelley Singh: Shame and Honor Culture

Shelley Singh is a former sikh who discovered the heart of the father through Jesus Christ. She is a Canadian by birth and has lived in India as well as in the United States. She grew up in Toronto, Canada where she was raised in a conservative sikh family and spent time learning about in the sikh faith through worship and various sikh youth camps around Toronto and Michigan.  She has been sharing her faith through social media platforms since 2015. She has spoken at a local university in Texas and shared her testimony through an online radio ministry. Her interests include world religions, shame and honor cultures, prophetic intercession, healing and apologetics. She holds a bachelors in health sciences with honors and a clinical doctorate in Audiology. Her writing topics of interest include intimacy, memoir, science and faith among others. Her heart is to teach others about the transformation and hope that redemptive grace can bring to any culture. She is fairly fluent in Punjabi and hindi/Urdu. She blogs at
Five Ways to Help When Your Friend Goes Through Loss

Five Ways to Help When Your Friend Goes Through Loss

There is an unspoken bond between mother’s who have buried their babies. I felt an instant connection to my guest, Sara R. Ward this week.This kind of bond can only be forged when you have walked through the Valley of the shadow of death and cling to the hope of Jesus because nothing else in life makes any sense.  When you allow God to heal your wounds so you can help another grieving mother know she too will get through this loss. You begin to understand the exchange of beauty for ashes.

Please welcome Sara R Ward to By His Grace this week.

Five Ways to Help When Your Friend Goes Through Loss

by Sara R. Ward

Recently, a woman I knew lost her husband to cancer. Toward the end of his life, he was in a great deal of pain, and she didn’t want him to suffer any more. 

A few months after her husband died, I talked to the woman again. The grief was in that early, raw time, and she admitted she was struggling. 

“I knew grief would be hard,” she said, “but I didn’t know it would be this hard.”

I sat there in silence. This woman had been prepared. Her husband was a pastor. She knew where he was spending eternity, but her response encapsulated the grief experience: we know grief and loss are difficult, but we don’t know how hard until we experience it ourselves. 

When I lost my son in 2012,  I sat in a grief group with other mourners who were broken from the loss of their loved ones. 

The first time I attended the support group, I dreaded even mentioning the name of my son who had passed away. 

When the time came for me to introduce myself I said, “My name is Sara, and I lost my son Silas.” Even as I said it, my voice broke and the tears started falling.

Saying his name scratched open my wounded heart, but I knew these people understood. They passed the tissue box and they didn’t try to fix my grief. Finally, I had found a community who understood that it was okay to not be okay. In those support group meetings, I learned a lot about what it meant to show up for people in their heartache.

I was starting to understand why the Jews had their own tradition for grief, a process called sitting shiva for someone after they lost a loved one. For seven days after a Jewish funeral, the grief-stricken family sits together and mourns. No work is done. The friends who visit during a shiva call come in quietly. 

Tradition says the usual small talk is usually replaced by silence or allowing the mourner to open the conversation. Their job is to be present, to sit in the quiet, or listen to the mourners.

The tradition of sitting shiva is a good example of how we can provide help. You can’t fix the grief, but you can show up and make yourself available. Choosing to be present in grief is an incredible gift. Click To Tweet

If you’re looking for other ways you can help, choose something that makes life easier for the family who has suffered loss. Food is an obvious choice, but there are other tasks that can be just as helpful.

One neighbor offered to do our laundry after Silas died. At first, I balked at the idea of passing on our dirty clothes. But she wanted to bless us this way and I knew I needed help. It was just so hard to accept it.

“You take away someone’s blessing when you reject help,” a friend once told us. “Because it blesses them as much as it does you.”

When the neighbor returned, laundry folded in neat piles, a wave of relief washed over me. She had blessed me with a simple act, and in return, doing this kindness gave her something in return.

We all need community, but it’s especially vital when our world crumbles. When our community shows up and offers what they can to ease the burden, it gives us a sense that we are not alone.

Together, we will get through this.

Ways you can help a friend in need:

  1. Show up. Be present and available. Don’t shrink from the hard stuff.
  2. Offer to take something off their plate: cooking, cleaning, laundry, lawn mowing, childcare,  The list is endless. If you can’t do it yourself, send a gift card covering the expense if possible. Make life easier for them in some small way.
  3. Don’t show up only during the week of a major event, but continue to reach out months afterward when the phone calls stop.
  4. Pray for them regularly. This may be the most overlooked act and yet, one of the most important.
  5. Affirm what they are feeling. Listening is one of the greatest gifts you can offer to a friend going through heartache.

About the author

Sara R. Ward is the author of the book, Made for Hope: Discovering Unexpected Gifts in Brokenness. She is a wife and mom to three children, including a son who passed away from Leigh’s disease in 2012. She writes about grief, child loss, adoption, and faith on She is a writer for and has been published on the Today Show Parenting Team, Focus on the Family and Homeschooling Today.

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Sara Ward: Tender Loss of a Child

Thanks so much for visiting today! You may also like Choosing Joy in Grief and From Grief to Grace.

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Misty Phillip

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